I think the biggest adjustment when becoming a mom is that life is no longer all about you and your spouse. The days of being able to be selfish are over and your life is consumed by a little human who communicates with you by screaming, crying, making some silly sounds, or grabbing, pulling, hitting, pointing, reaching, etc. At this point, Mason is adding in some words in between the screaming, crying, and adorable gibberish and he still loves to shove his head into my chest, pat (rather swat at me), bite or do a number of other things to tell me what he needs and wants.
Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely cherish this time that I have been given with my son and wouldn’t change a second of it for the world. Even the meltdowns, because without them you wouldn’t be able to fully appreciate the beautiful moments. Like the other day, Mason pinched his little fingers in the sliding door shutters (I hope I’m making sense) and after I got his fingers out he reached up at me and we shared the sweetest moment. Mason hugged me tight and long and being able to sooth him and dry his tears just makes everything that’s hard about parenting so worth it. I know every mom goes through the same things with their little ones and while this is the absolute hardest job I’ve ever done it’s also the most rewarding and fulfilling job!
So now getting to the point of this post…the idea of “me time” has totally changed. Since I’m a stay at home mom, I rarely get it, not even when I’m going to the bathroom, so I take full advantage of nap times! Nap time, is my quiet, “me time.” I like to sit and enjoy my now cold cup of coffee. I think I probably re-heat my coffee at least 3-4 times throughout the day. This quote I posted the other day on my Instagram couldn’t be more true in my life right now. Yes, it’s sad how long it takes me to get through a cup or two of coffee. I used to down my lattes before they ever had the chance to cool down.
Other than enjoying my cup of coffee without having to worry about little hands trying to grab at my mug, I pour my heart and energy into this blog. Have Need Want is not just a business to me but it’s my passion and I absolutely love creating content for the blog. I feel like the blog helps me keep my own identity. I know that can be something parents, both moms and dads, feel like they lose a bit of when becoming parents. Running a blog is a lot of work and very time consuming so I work on it whenever I can.
I also, like to pamper myself a little bit too. I used to go out and get my nails done every other week at a nail salon but now my idea of pampering is taking a little more time to get ready in the morning (or more like afternoon), doing my nails at home, enjoying a pretty smelling candle while putting on my makeup and doing my hair, getting to take a longer than normal shower (this only happens when Justin is home on the weekends), and last but certainly not least fitting in a workout! We just joined the Bay Club near us and the MAJOR perk of a family membership, 30 hours of daycare!!!!! This just extended out my “me time” allowing for more, longer workouts and a little more work time during the day (insert BIG smiley face)
I obviously don’t get to do all of these “me time” activities all the time but these are all the little things that I love to do for myself. I also spend many hours after Mason has gone to sleep to work on the blog or do some relaxing before going to bed myself. And, most nights I even stay up a couple hours after Justin falls asleep too, to get everything ready for him for the next day at the academy, to get work done, or just veg out on the couch catching up on my favorite Bravo and HGTV shows! Another little me time indulgence I allow myself every now and again!
PS my favorite coffee mug (not pictured here) is one my friend Ione got me. It sums up my life and I think it’s perfect for all the mompreneurs out there!!
Want to hear what other moms do to find time for themselves? I’m linking up with a group of bloggers (who are moms!) today:
How do you spend your “me time?”