Happy Wednesday! I know you’re used to seeing my Label for Less posts on Wednesday’s but today’s post was sparked by a conversation I had the other night. The person who inspired me to write this post is someone who does not read or support my blog so I feel very safe writing out my feelings as I was unable to express myself correctly in the heat of the conversation. I am the first to recognize when I let someone get under my skin and don’t handle myself appropriately. There are people who learn about who you are to better communicate with you and those that learn who you are so that they can push your buttons. This person is the latter (well at least with me).
I know not everyone in this world is going to like me and I know there are going to be many that don’t agree with me and that’s totally fine. But, one thing I will not stand for is someone disrespecting me, my family, my friends, or strangers for that matter. I have always been the person to stand up for the ones being bullied. I will take the side of the person being humiliated, made fun of, or being the butt of someone else jokes because I believe that if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Just because you are closed minded, misinformed, threatened because someone is different or perhaps even confident in who they are as a person and is not looking for validation from you does not give you the right to verbally assault someones beliefs or character.
As I think with everyone there are hot buttons you don’t really discuss especially in groups and the two biggest ones for me would be religion and politics. No matter your religious beliefs I will always respect you for having found your way to practice your faith and learn the great lessons that religion is supposed to teach us. To love and respect others, to treat people the way you want to be treated, to be kind, to be welcoming to others with open arms, to be supportive, to be charitable, to find it in your heart even when people may not think or do exactly the way you do to listen to them, to be a good friend, to be a good child, sibling, parent, and neighbor. I could go on and on about what I think the main goal of any religious teaching should be but to sum it up, be a good human!
I don’t stand for bullying, name calling, deliberately pushing peoples buttons to upset them, and I most definitely don’t support people who feel it is ok to make fun of someones family. I won’t tolerate it! I could say so many mean and hurtful things back as a way to protect myself and my heart and the heart of those people I hold so dearly to me but then what have I done, stooped too low and I feel ashamed and embarrassed fo allowing myself to let someone else get the best of me.
To this person that I have tried so hard to get along with for the sake of those people who we mutually care about, you might not know this but I respect you and the person you are despite the fact that I don’t always agree with what you say or do. I have done everything in my power to not let you get the best of me, but from time to time, you do and in those moments I feel defeated as my character has been compromised do to the hurtful things you say. I know you do not like me or respect me and I feel it is rooted in your insecurities, not mine, for reasons I am totally unaware of.
So to get to my point of this post and the reason I felt it important to share my experience is to share the following that I have learned over the years starting with my parents raising me to be a good human and life experience learning from seeing other people act, and do, and be the person that I strive to be. The reasons why it is so important to be respectful to people even if you don’t agree.
Why it is so important to be respectful to others: Because…
1. It is a reflection of who you are as a person.
2. You never know how your words and actions can effect someone.
3. Being respectful towards people is a key aspect in life in order to form and maintain positive relationships.
4. It shows that person has some value to you no matter how big or small.
5. If you want to be respected than you need to show respect to others.
6. It shows that you are a caring individual who finds value in the friendships and people they keep.
7. By not being respectful to others it shows a lack of social awareness.
I know today’s post was a long one and if you’ve read to here, thank you so much! Writing is therapeutic for me and sometimes, I feel the need to write about things that truly matter, that are at the core of who I am. Don’t get me wrong I absolutely love sharing my outfits and writing about fashion, it is my passion and the reason I started this blog. But, from time to time, and I hope you are ok with it, I like to right about these kinds of topics. The ones that I am also passionate about, that also tend to be sparked by personal experiences, much like the post I did on mental health.
But now let me quickly get back to the fashion blogger in me and chat with you real quick about this outfit! I scored this J.Crew chambray dress and Tory Burch crossbody bag at ThredUp! They opened a few retail locations in the Bay Area but they are mainly an online based consignment shop. I posted about it on my Instagram channel last week. As you all know, I love the OTS trend and I’ve added a few new OTS dresses to my closet, but my fave has got to be this one. These round Chloe sunnies were a score at Nordstrom Rack at almost 65% off!
I’m all about finding a deal and starting tomorrow I’ll be sharing my top picks in each category for the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale!! This is probably one of the best times to shop new pieces at a discount and friends don’t let friends pay full price if they don’t have to! I hope you all will follow along with me on Insta as well as here for my try-on sessions and if there is anything that you are currently on the hunt for or need to refresh in your closet please let me know, that way I can make sure I’m bringing you the type of sale items you are interested in. So, if you feel like sharing, please let me know in the comments what types of things you’re looking for…a new pair of running shoes? maybe a cashmere sweater? possibly in need of a new pair of boots? or how about some new jeans? I’d love to help you out! Consider me your personal shopper!!
Dress: J.Crew, c/o ThredUp (love this OTS dress). Shoes: Schutz, old (love these flats and this currently available cork shoes). Handbag: Tory Burch, c/o ThredUp (love this alternate crossbody that available in tan and black). Sunglasses: Chloe (on major sale!). Earrings: Kendra Scott.
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